Quick-!
Your ex is coming to town. What do you do with him/her/it?
Actually, there’s a handy, inverse equation we all can use:

The more you’re still caught up in the perhaps death-ray-like pull of your ex’s charms, the more intentionally cursory the planned activity.
So-!

Are you:

Over it? Politely interested, even, in hearing about the ex’s new stellar career, love of life plus baby, dog and charming cottage set on 20 acres of rolling farmland?

Activity: Long dinner and a carafe of Pinot Grigio. If you catch yourself nodding off, you can blame it on the wine.

Doing well and over the relationship, but still feeling the slightest twinges of sentimentality when you hear that freaking song?

Activity: Cheap beer and greasy fries at cozy booth in local noisy bar. Alternate: Beer and greasy fries, seated at crowded bar itself.

Doing fairly well, but absolutely secure in the knowledge that you are in no way prepared to hear a single “amusing” story about ex’s recent terrible date, let along ex’s more-recent hopeful date? Nor about his having learned pleasures of domesticity through remodeling the kitchen in his new house.

Activity: Iced Coffee at Quiktrip.